Laser treatments, Basil Cells, Star Wars, 3-D glasses, and the Boy Scouts Motto: Be Prepared.

On a Tuesday in December, I had laser “blasting” on an implant on my right eye. The lens cleared up and my doctor assured me that I would be able to find the Orion Nebula with my telescope.

My One Year Check Up….

I visited my urologist yesterday.  He wanted to know how I was getting along with my Men’s Liberty External catheter.  (When I saw him last December, I had just started wearing it.  I must have mentioned it, because he remembered.)

Much for which to be Thankful!

Bah-Humbug!  That is the name of the play our nine-year-old granddaughter is performing at our local Gaslight Youth Theater.  This is her fifth play since the age of six in a cast of thirty or more actors ranging from six to sixteen years.  For her, each play is more demanding with more lines and more […]

How Men’s Liberty Helped Me Overcome Travel Anxiety

I’ll admit that wearing the Men’s Liberty external catheter caused me some degree of anxiety when I started using it last year. I’m not one to follow directions once I’ve read the first paragraph. By July of this year, however, I find that I am navigating the learning curve with some success. (I’m sure that […]

Coming Out Of The (Catheter) Closet

For men who are sixty and over, about one in four have problems with incontinence. The surprising thing is that some of these men won’t even discuss the problem with their doctor.

Disability, Marriage and True Love in Brooklyn

Do you know what today is? Today is July 26, 2015. It is exactly 25 years since the signing of the Americans with Disabilities Act or ADA for short. It seems for every step forward we make as a species we take two steps back.

Adjusting to a New Normal

When our son died of sleep apnea on July 2, 1997, our life shattered. Ours was a colorless world of black and white. Well-meaning family and friends advised us to “get over it and get back to normal”. That wasn’t going to happen. Nothing was “normal” again. Eighteen years of monthly meetings with The Compassionate […]

The Time Machine

Today a friend I’ve known for many years and went to school with posted a set of photos on every body’s favorite social network. As I have already mentioned in one of this year’s blogs 2015 marks the 20th anniversary of my high school graduating class. It seems strange because I remember the night in […]

Self-Isolation and How To Avoid Meetings

Becoming incontinent happened quickly after my total prostatectomy. At my post-op meeting, the surgeon said I might experience some incontinence and need to wear diapers. (Those were his words: diapers.) That was an understatement. I experienced incontinence every day, all day. A friend suggested that I try physical therapy.

Notes From The ER…This ain’t no Greys Anatomy

There are few things that will make you jump like pissing blood will. Anyone reading this who either has a spinal cord injury or intimately knows someone who does knows exactly what I’m talking about. Living with the numbness and nerve damage and paralysis is one thing, the secondary effects are what drive people like […]